The scriptures tell us to love others as we love ourselves. Elder Holland helps us understand what that really means.
In a Brigham Young University devotional address in 2000, Elder Jeffrey R. Holland discussed ways we can find and give true love.
Elder Holland emphasizes that true love is divine love—or charity. Charity is bestowed upon us by God, he says. “It doesn’t come without effort and it doesn’t come without patience, but, like salvation itself, in the end it is a gift, given by God.”
Finding love. True love is kind, selfless, courageous, slow to anger, and attentive. Elder Holland encourages us to find people who can give us that kind of love. He says, “I would not have you spend five minutes with someone who belittles you, who is constantly critical of you.” Instead, Elder Holland says that we should find someone who brings out the best in us and takes joy in our happiness.
Giving love. We must also be willing to give true love. Elder Holland explains that “to give ourselves totally to another person . . . is an act of faith—faith all of us must be willing to exercise.” As we do so, we should be mindful of those we are in relationships with. Elder Holland explains, “Friends, sweethearts, and spouses need to be able to monitor each other’s stress and recognize the different tides and seasons of life.” We must love in ways that help us lift each other up, showing our love in ways that will make life better for our loved one.
“How should I love thee?” Elder Holland asks. His answer focuses on Christlike love: We should love “as He does, for that way ‘never faileth.’” As we pray for charity, God will bless us with love that does not fail and will not end.
Read Elder Holland’s full article, “How Do I Love Thee?”
Source: BYU Speeches
—Marissa Compton, Mormon Insights