Waiting until marriage to have sex will improve your relationship.
Popular culture in television, music, literature, and art glorifies casual sex and sends the message that it is fun and satisfying to have an intimate relationship with someone before marriage. However, religion and social science studies make stronger arguments that waiting for marriage may be one of the smartest choices to make.
Scriptures teach that we should wait to have sexual relationships only within the bonds of marriage. For example, Joseph of Egypt refuses to be with Potiphar’s wife (Genesis 39:9). Jesus Christ teaches that even lustful thoughts (not just lustful actions) are against God’s ways. These examples are useful in explaining the background of this moral standard, but they don’t answer the why.
During a symposium hosted by Brigham Young University’s Wheatley Institution, Jason Carroll, professor of Marriage and Family Studies and Associate Director in the School of Family Life at Brigham Young University, gave a lecture titled, “Slow But Sure: Does the Timing of Sex During Dating Matter?” In his remarks, Professor Carroll emphasizes the importance of waiting until marriage to have a sexual relationship and indicates that relationships in which the partners wait longer have a better chance of lasting longer. Carroll’s research shows that “couples who wait until marriage to have sex compared to those who started having sex early in their dating report higher relationship satisfaction (20% higher), better communication patterns (12% better), less consideration of divorce (22% lower), and better sexual quality (15% better).”
If you are interested in having a long and loving relationship, says Carroll, waiting for sex may be key: “While true love does indeed wait, it may actually work the other way around—waiting helps create true love.”
Source: Wheatley Institution
—Tacy LeBaron, Mormon Insights
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